A wo-man

Saying that language shapes us as much as we shape it at this point has become a mere truism; yet, there are moments when I become aware of this anew—just as I have now, upon beginning to read the English translation of Simone de Beauvoir’s Le Deuxième Sexe, a process that inevitably involves also stepping outside the confines of my own native language (which is yet another benefit of emigration).

I had never thought deeply about the words ‘mężczyzna’ (a man, an adult male) and ‘kobieta’ (a woman, an adult female) before, and the fact that—unlike their English counterparts—they are clearly distinct from one another never really registered since they are simply a natural part of my native language, just like any other element of it, and I use them as instinctively as I breathe or walk. Reading de Beauvoir, however, made me realise that the situation is different when it comes to the English terms ‘man’ and ‘woman’—the latter sounds almost like a subspecies of the former, and on top of that, ‘man’ also means a human, a person regardless of gender or sex, usually an adult, which, by the way, was not always the case: etymologically, the word ‘woman’ derives from the Old English ‘wīfmann’, which essentially meant ‘female person’, and the term ‘mann’ referred primarily to a person or human being (mankind), although it could also, on occasion, denote an adult male; the word ‘wer’ was used more specifically for a man.

De Beauvoir’s own native French is less revealing of this particular linguistic bias than English. The word ‘homme’ means a man but also a human being (as in les droits de l’homme, traditionally ‘human’, although ‘être humain’ is another expression for a human being), and ‘femme’ denotes a woman. Still, they don’t share the same twisted relationship as their English counterparts.

But in the end, the Polish and French societies have been just as patriarchal as English society, so the truism may not withstand scrutiny, after all.


More words to ponder at maciejmodzelewski.com

The language of power

Why does man form the root of both human and woman in English? In Polish, by contrast, the words for a man, a human, and a woman—mężczyzna, człowiek, and kobieta—are three entirely separate terms. What’s more, man in English denotes not only a male individual but also a person in general and even humanity itself, depending on context. It becomes specifically male only when marked by an article. Doesn’t that reinforce patriarchy?


More words to ponder at maciejmodzelewski.com

The vaginaless monologues

I have no vagina; I haven’t been blessed with one. I am vaginaless. I was born with this sausage-like front tail called a penis instead. And believe me, it’s not a blessing—try peeing after waking up with a morning wood, for example. Ah, you don’t know what it’s like. Well, so do I when you mention your period. It looks like we both have things we just have to take on faith. And please, before you accuse me of mockery, try to see me for who I really am, because your body drives you crazy once a month; mine, on the other hand, is a thorn twenty-four-seven; at least it was for the younger, testosterone-fuelled version of me. Now that I’ve crossed the magical forty mark, it’s actually not that bad. Originally, masturbating at least twice a day went down to at most twice a month. It’s that damn biology, you know. Obsession with sex may be funny in Hollywood comedies, but in real life, it’s a hard thing to deal with, especially for an average guy like myself who doesn’t look like Brad Pitt or is rich like those dudes at Google. And just to be perfectly clear, I don’t condone any of the terrible things that have happened and are still happening to you and your sisters. I’m the furthest from that. And this whole patriarchy thing is as bad for me and my brethren as it is for you, even if some of these morons are not even aware of that. So, let’s talk about how to change our lives for the better.