Category: English prose

Here is my prose in English.

watercolour portrait of a man with a demonic appearance

The vaginaless monologues (10)

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What does it mean to be a man? I really don’t know, to be perfectly honest. All the significant social functions defining my existence, like citizen, employee, or parent (I deliberately avoid the word father), have nothing to do with my gender and could just as easily be fulfilled if I were a woman. Even biologically, my role in maintaining the species is rather minor and purely accidental. Once I donate my semen, I might as well cease to exist if the mother obtains stable means of subsistence independent of my providing. One might say that I’m the role model for the children, but honestly, what are the roles that I’m supposed to teach them that specifically require my gender? And aren’t lesbian couples as good at parenting as straight ones, despite the lack of that extra accessory in their underwear that some men are so fond of? In the past, it was all simple—muscle power and ruthlessness—and once men consolidated their position, all they had to do was make sure that women had no chance to rise above their assigned roles, as perfectly captured in the slogan used under the German Empire: Kinder, Küche, Kirche, although the 3Ks mentality wasn’t something specifically German. Thus, men’s entire position and identity were based on oppression. This couldn’t last forever, despite continuous—in some places deadly—backlash all over the world, and when this whole structure started to fall apart, we discovered that the king was naked—the whole manhood thing was nothing but a hollow eggshell. The answers to this vary: bloody violence, right-wing extremism, Incel, depression, alcoholism, suicide, and so on—all destructive, all wrong. I’m sure there are also positive initiatives, but they are unnoticeable in the shadow of the above. I, myself, like many others, I’m sure, somehow managed to avoid the worst, but I’m still confused, insecure, and trying unsuccessfully to find my way through all this to define who I am as a man. The first step is to tell myself there is nothing wrong with being lost and vulnerable. Boys don’t cry no longer applies. We’ll see where this takes me.

watercolour with a young man drinking vodka from a bottle while sitting on the windowsill

The vaginaless monologues (9)

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I don’t know how to be a father. I lost that lesson to a bottle of vodka my father preferred over family life. I wasn’t a good husband either, for that same reason, I guess, although I can’t really blame him for my short temper and lack of patience; that’s all on me. Being the child of an alcoholic scars you for life. Drunken screams, chairs flying across the living room, a military belt marking your buttocks for the slightest offence, no money—the list could go on and on. There were no birthday parties, and what’s more, my friends, and there were only a few of them, couldn’t even visit me. No wonder I grew up locked in my room like a hermit, escaping from reality into the world of books. It certainly didn’t help me develop my social skills. But after all of that, I should have known better, but, what a surprise, I started drinking myself. I remember one evening in my dorm room, when I was sitting on the windowsill with a bottle of vodka, drinking straight from the bottle. My friend came, and when he saw me, he didn’t say a word; he just went to the wall, took down the mirror hanging on it, put it on my lap, and left. It was only a few years later, when, after emptying a bottle of vodka in the cinema during the opening credits, I blacked out and the next thing I remembered was walking on all fours like a dog down the main street of the city on the way back home, that I realised it was time to end it. Vodka eventually killed my father—he died of cancer. I survived sober for almost twenty-five years. But I will never be normal, whatever that means.

watercolour with a woman taking notes while reading a book

The queen is naked

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Maybe it is a matter of one’s inner voice being inaccessible to others (perhaps being a man makes me deaf to it), or maybe it’s like those deeply personal rituals that, seen from outside, seem absurd, ridiculous even, but I’m two-thirds through “The Vagina Monologues,” and apart from a very few exceptions, I can’t muster anything more than a shrug.

I really started to wonder where all this hype came from when the book was first published. I guess the real novelty was the title itself—controversial and headline-making. I’ve also never seen Eve Ensler on stage, and I could imagine her performance being crucial to the reception of this text. But beyond that, I can’t help but exclaim that the king (queen, actually) is naked. There are no secrets unravelled, no divine revelations about women. The whole book doesn’t even look like coherent narration. Reading it feels more like going through someone’s random notes on roughly the same topic in a notebook you found left by accident on a bus seat.

I am sure that this book will go down in the annals of history, but more because of what happened around it than because of the text itself. But it won’t be a whole chapter; more like a two-sentence mention, a short paragraph at most. And I don’t say this out of malice. This text simply doesn’t have enough weight to deserve more. If I’m in the mood for real heavyweight feminist writing, all I have to do is reach for something by Germaine Greer or Susan Faludi from my bookshelf.

As a side note, I will mention that after I finished Gloria Steinem’s foreword to “The Vagina Monologues” and the introduction by the author herself, the idea of my own monologues came to me. You can find them in the following texts:

watercolour of a shy student during a party

The vaginaless monologues (8)

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Back in college, any time I complained about my lack of success in love, my friend used to say that every monster will find its amateur (this Polish proverb sounds much better in my native language because it rhymes). Truth be told, I always thought she was actually saying it for her own comfort because, with her being severely overweight and having a face that made you think of a hamster after a meal, what chance did she have of finding someone? It turned out that I couldn’t be more wrong. When I got to know her better, I saw that she was the life of the party, always surrounded by guys, swearing like a cobbler, and able to outdrink even the toughest of them. As she once told me, she couldn’t complain about the lack of intimate partners either. It was her fairly pretty yet terribly shy room-mate who was lonely, always in her shadow. I lost contact with both of them after college, but sometimes I wonder how their lives turned out. But I learned one thing from them: appearance may help you a little to make a good first impression, but in the end, what matters is who you are. If only I wasn’t that shy.

watercolour with a girl pushing a boy in the crowd at school

The vaginaless monologues (7)

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I hit a woman once. She was fourteen, as was I. We were classmates. It happened at school during the lunch break. We all entered the congested stream of students passing through the main corridor in the direction of the school canteen, and while slowly moving towards the smell of the chef’s latest invention, at one point I felt someone behind me brutally pushing me. I turned around. It was her. What surprised me even more was that when I asked why she was pushing me, instead of answering, she started kicking me. And then it happened. Without a moment’s thought, I instinctively slapped her. It was as if my hand were acting of its own accord. I was as surprised by this act as she was. Of course, she and the friend she was with immediately ran to complain about me to the teacher. As you can easily guess, a scandal broke out. My parents were called to the headmaster because the girls didn’t bother to mention kicking, so I was accused of an unprovoked physical attack. Fortunately, at that time I already had the reputation of being a quiet, harmless bookworm, so the headmaster believed my version of events, which they ultimately confirmed. Of course, this did not explain my reaction, and I had to apologise to her, but the whole affair ended without any serious repercussions for me. Two things make me wonder, though: why did I respond to the attack by attacking instead of running away as usual (I was a cowardly type, which infuriated my father every time I came home crying), and how did my hand know to stay open instead of balling into a fist? As a boy, I knew how to use my fists and had a fight or two with the boys in the yard, even if I usually preferred to run away. And more importantly, would I respond the same way now, as an adult? Although I never did it again, I never experienced being assaulted by a woman again either.

watercolour of a man standing between another man and a woman

The vaginaless monologues (6)

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They say that policemen know the best cop jokes. By that logic, the funniest guy in our bunch had to be gay; only then did we call them fags, and being perceived as one was social suicide at the very least. Why be surprised if even the Catholic Church, which should have taught brotherly love, called them sodomites? So it never occurred to me to identify as one, even though I loved running naked in the fields with my friends in the summer and happened to have a moment of pleasure with one. But these were nothing but monkey business, and we all soon began to fall in love with the more physically developed girls from our school. And personally, I’ve always been a little obsessed with plump breasts, even more so once I saw Pamela Anderson in Baywatch—how stereotypical! But from time to time, I felt like doing it with a friend, especially when we were watching porn on worn-out video tapes. I just never had the guts to do anything about it, and my admiration for women’s breasts has always been much stronger than any of these urges anyway. And now that I have lost the vitality of youth, it’s all just barren musings since neither women nor men fancy me. How ironic.

watercolour with a boy reading a book on the floor next to the sofa and a painting with the Virgin Mary on the wall

The vaginaless monologues (5)

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I had my first orgasm on the couch in my parents’ bedroom under a shoddy reproduction of the Black Madonna of Czestochowa. I was about twelve and reading a book as usual when I felt this strange tingling sensation in my crotch. Intrigued by an unknown feeling, I reached there with my hand, and when I touched my willy, it started to grow, and each subsequent touch was more pleasant, so I started stroking it until it finally became as stiff as a stick, so I grabbed it in my hand and started rhythmically—well, you know the mechanics of that. I don’t know how, but I instinctively knew what to do. While I was doing this, I kept staring at the face of the Black Madonna, sad as if she were upset because of me and what I was doing. It didn’t take long before an unexpected spasm hit my body, and something unknown gushed forth from the organ that had previously only been used for peeing. And just like that, I discovered that there is more to life than books and grandma’s cream puffs, and that pleasure is laced with guilt.

watercolour with a woman shaving her armpits

The vaginaless monologues (4)

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I cried the first time you did it. I couldn’t believe my eyes when I saw your pubic mound—stripped of hair, skin chemically burned because you used some horrible depilatory cream. All the photos I had seen of victims of chemical attacks during the Great War flashed before my eyes. I bet you didn’t even notice. I begged you never to do that again. Same with shaving your legs and armpits. To no avail. Your excuse was the comfort but also the embarrassment of being seen in public with a hairy body, with emphasis on the latter. I have never understood that. I like body hair. I couldn’t wait for winter, because then you wouldn’t pay much attention to shaving since you were wearing pants and long sleeves anyway. But as soon as the sun began to shine brighter, you always returned to these barbaric rituals. And why? Because of some bizarre social—i.e., male—norm imposing a quasi-paedophilic image on women? Or maybe women are doing this to themselves of their own volition; perhaps they are the ones who actually incite each other, since I sincerely doubt I’m the only one who enjoys playing with short and curlies.

watercolour painting of a married couple with problems in the bedroom

The vaginaless monologues (3)

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At first, you think she is shy, which is kind of cute, and you two just started dating, so even holding hands counts. Later, you convince yourself that it’s her religious beliefs about virginity, which you respect, or at least try to. Of course, the wedding night is a fictitious event, and everyone is wasted anyway. But then regular life begins, and still nothing happens. Not because of a lack of effort on your part, though. And with every new excuse, your resentment keeps growing until you reach the point where you just can’t do it anymore. You call the fiction what it is and say out loud the unthinkable—divorce. Only then does something crack in the fortress walls, and you finally reach what you have been waiting for all this time. For a while, everything seemed to work out somehow, despite frequent ups and downs. Then the big question pops up, and out of nowhere, your intimate life turns into a precisely scheduled chore. But you don’t complain—it’s still the intimate life after all. Well, in a way, since it makes you feel like a semen injector sometimes. After the little one arrives, you don’t expect anything any time soon, and you both are exhausted after countless sleepless nights with colic and whatever else causes endless crying anyway. But eventually, life settles. Only intimacy is still a minefield. You talk and try to find a way to make it work, sometimes with success, sometimes without. And the resentment starts to build up again, which doesn’t help either. There are days when everything seems great and you dream of a perfect ending in the bedroom. Then the kid goes to bed, and bam, she sparks an argument over some trifle, quick to resolve but enough for her to say she’s not in the mood. Eventually, there is nothing but bitterness and resentment left, and you wonder: What on earth is this love thing all about? But whatever you think, it’s always your fault; you can take that for granted. After all, you are the one who only thinks about sex, aren’t you?